If submariners are the “Silent Service,” military husbands may be the “Invisible Spouses.” An overwhelming majority of military spouses are female–
a solid 92 percent service-wide for active duty families, according to a 2017 study by the DoD. Across branches, male spouses of Marines are the most difficult to find as they only total three percent of all Marine spouses, while male Air Force spouses are the most plentiful at 12 percent of that branch’s spouses. Male Reserve and National Guard spouses clock in at 13 percent of that demographic.
It makes sense as to why so much of the military spouse narrative is focused on female spouses. From blogs to books, female military spouses are plentiful, while the male spouse’s perspective is much harder to find. And they’re tough to find in pictures, too. . . so we spent some time looking for male military spouses doing military spouse things.
1. Like meeting someone famous. . .
U.S. Air Force Master Sgt. Louella Campbell and her husband Matt speak with former airline pilot Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger and his wife Lorraine during a visit to the Fisher House at Travis Air Force Base, Calif, Oct. 17, 2017. The Sullenberger’s met with Fisher House representatives and families to learn more about the Fisher House Foundation, started by Zachary and Elizabeth Fisher in 1991 to fulfill the need for temporary lodging facilities for families at major military medical centers. Sullenberger had the opportunity to interact with past and present residents at the facility, and learn how they benefitted from the experience. Sullenberger is a 1973 Air Force Academy graduate and is best known for successfully landing a crippled airliner in the Hudson River in 2009 saving the lives of a 155 passengers. (U.S. Air Force photo by Heide Couch) 2. . . . or meeting their spouses on the pier after a long deployment.
Lt.j.g. Sasha Lowry is greeted by her husband Lt.j.g. Ian Lowry during the homecoming celebration of the littoral combat ship USS Gabrielle Giffords (LCS 10). Gabrielle Giffords returned to Naval Base San Diego after a ten-month deployment to South America. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Indra Bosko) 3. There’s attending celebrations and awards ceremonies . . .
U.S. Marine Corps Staff Sgt. Yahmise D. Bordies, administrative specialist, Plans, Policies and Operations, and her husband, Eric Bordies, pose for a photo with her promotion warrant at the Pentagon, Arlington, Va., May 05, 2017. Bordies was promoted to the rank of Staff Sergeant. (U.S. Marine Corps photo by Lance Cpl. Stephon L. McRae) 4. . . . and being a little more informal.
Major Stacey Colon, her husband and two sons enjoy a day hiking in the snow. Photo courtesy Major Stacey Colon. 5. Male spouses make sure to show their pride for their spouses whether it’s wearing a special shirt. . .
Sgt. 1st Class Helena Schroeder, 485th Military Police Company, Nevada Army National Guard, hugs her husband, Harry Schroeder during the unit’s deployment return from Kuwait at Atlantic Aviation in Reno, July 6, 2017. The 485th Military Police Company, headquartered in Reno, performed customs operations from October 2016 until June in Kuwait and other Middle East countries. The 485th’s return marks the end of a busy series of deployments for the Nevada Army Guard, which had about 460, or 15 percent, of its Soldiers deployed in autumn 2016. (Photo: Nevada Army National Guard) 6. . . . or participating in a pinning ceremony.
Chief Yeoman Diego Villa receives his anchors from his husband, Hospital Corpsman 2nd Class Adrian Villa Cervantes, during the Chief Petty Officer Pinning Ceremony held aboard Naval Station Rota Sept. 15, 2017. Rota welcomed 23 Sailors and an Air Force tech. sergeant to the chief petty officer (CPO) ranks during the ceremony. Naval Station Rota enables and supports operations of U.S. and allied forces and provides quality services in support of the fleet, fighter, and family for Commander, Navy Installations Command in Navy Region Europe, Africa, Southwest Asia. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 3rd Class M. Jang/Released) 7. Sometimes it means holding your breath that the kids are going to keep it together in public. . .
Cpt. Michelle L. Pruitt, Brigade S1 (Personnel) for 449th Theater Aviation Brigade, is promoted to the rank of Major at Joint Force Headquarters in Raleigh, N.C., on June 2, 2017. Pruitt was pinned by her husband and sons, and joined by family and friends to celebrate her advancement to a field grade officer level. (U.S. Army National Guard photo by Sgt. Lisa Vines) 8. . . . and sometimes it means just holding the kids in public.
Sgt. 1st Class Alicia Hofmann, her husband Staff Sgt. David Hofmann, and one-year-old son Luke pose for photographs at Sgt. 1st Class Hofmann’s Soldier’s Medal ceremony held at Fort Knox, Kentucky, Sept. 29, 2017. She was awarded the Soldier’s Medal for risking her life to save a man from a car accident that occurred on Oct. 4, 2014 in Saline, Michigan. (Photo by Sgt. 1st Class Elizabeth Breckenkamp, 80th Training Command Public Affairs Office) 9. Male spouses are advocates for themselves, their spouses, and their families, too.
Deceased U.S. Air Force Senior Airman Leanne Locascio, poses for a photo with her husband Remy Locascio, a local Abilene realtor, at Dyess Air Force Base, Texas. Leanne died after she crashed her motorcycle in Merkel, Texas in June 2015. Remy now tells his story to other Airmen about how his inner strength and resiliency was a necessity in order to get him through his long-term depression due to losing his wife in the accident. (Courtesy photo) 10. Military families are all different. . .
Master Sgt. Stacey Lockwood, of the 119th Wing, is surrounded by her husband and daughters as they greet her with flowers upon her return home from a six-month deployment to southwest Asia to Hector International Airport, Fargo, N.D., Oct. 25, 2017. She is among approximately 140 North Dakota Air National Guard members returning from planned deployments to various locations in southwest Asia over the next several months. It is the largest number of unit members to deploy at one time since the Korean War, when approximately 400 unit members deployed. (U.S. Air National Guard Photo by Senior Master Sgt. David H. Lipp) 11. . . . but one thing’s for sure:
U.S. Air Force Capt. Renee Cassidy, the 509th Maintenance Operations officer in charge, and her husband, Capt. Justin Cassidy, the 13th Aircraft Maintenance Unit officer in charge, pose for a photo in Knob Noster, Mo., Feb. 27, 2017. The Cassidys began long-distance dating in 2012 and were officially married in May 2013. Joint-spouse orders reunited the couple at Whiteman Air Force Base in 2014. (U.S. Air Force photo by Airman 1st Class Jazmin Smith) 12. . . . male spouses are absolutely integral to them and to our community.
Capt. Millie Hale, 22nd Air Refueling Wing executive officer, and Capt. Ralph Hale, 22nd Operations Group executive officer, pose for a photo on a T-38 Talon Aug. 13, 2017, at Sheppard Air Force Base, Texas. A German pilot instructor, while she was in pilot training, provided the inspiration for Hale’s joint spouse proposal that was recently implemented into the Career Intermission Program. (courtesy photo) 13. Rock on, guys!
U.S. Air Force Tech. Sgt. Lorelaine Hale, 27th Special Operations Force Support Squadron, kisses her husband Ray Hale outside hanger 196 Dec. 10. Hales family waited with many others in hanger 196 to welcome back their Airmen from deployment. (U.S. Air Force photo by Airman Ericka Engblom)
By J.G. Noll