Staying Together Apart: Friendships have changed

Staying Together Apart: Friendships have changed

It’s been months since I have gotten together with friends. Months! That is hard to believe. It’s been so long since I have met anyone for lunch, or gone to a movie. Friendships have had to change the last few months, and that hasn’t been easy.

The theme of MilSpouseFest for the year is “Together.” Doing life together, going through the challenges of military life together, and helping one another out.

But what does that look like now? In this new world, where we can’t just call up someone and meet for lunch. Where we can’t go to a potluck, or meet a group of friends at the park with our kids. Friendships have changed but how can we stay positive about it and still feel like we as a military community are in this together?

Remember, this is temporary

I think it is so important that we remember that this is all temporary. That we will all eventually be able to go back to being together again. That we will have those lunches and get-togethers. That we will be able to connect in person again. Remembering that this time apart is temporary will make it easier to make it through each day.

Remember, we can still connect

Just because we can’t connect in person doesn’t mean we can’t connect. There are many different ways to do so. Sure, you can have a Zoom meetup but beyond that, you can text, email, or even talk on the phone.

You can chat with your friends about what you have been reading or watching on tv. While you can’t get together for a glass of wine and some chitchat, you can video chat with the drink of your choice, on a Saturday night. Many friend groups are finding a new normal with this modern way of connecting.

Remember, we are in this together

During the last few months, I have had good days and bad days. Days when I have felt like everything was going to be okay, and days when I just get so sad about what is going on. But what helps me through is knowing that we are all in this together. It isn’t just me and my family dealing with this.

When I remember that we are all in this together, it makes it a little easier to get through. We are going through this pandemic together, no matter where we physically live. My friends in Germany are feeling it, just like my friends in different parts of the US are.

It might look a little different based on where you live and your own family situation, but we are in this together, taking it day by day. And I know that someday in the future, we will have all these funny stories to tell about our time in our homes. From the silly things our kids are doing to the technical fails of a Zoom meeting with friends.

We as military spouses have to depend on one another. Through deployments, through a PCS, and now this pandemic. We can help one another through the more difficult days and laugh together about the fun we had creating community in a different type of way.

How are you staying together, even when you have to be physically apart?

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